a thought.

you know how people always say the first year of marriage is really hard?

i've never really understood that because my first year (10 months) of marriage has never been hard.

yeah, okay, maybe you disagree and have to learn how work out issues, but we did that when we were dating... what's different about that when you get married?

today, someone asked me somewhat sarcastically, "you still married?"
"of course!" i replied with a laugh.  to which that someone replied, "wow!  you're even smiling!"

yeah, marriage isn't all unicorns and rainbows all the time.  (cause, literally... that would be freaky!)

we disagree about whose turn it is to do those darn dishes or clean midge's litter box.  and sometimes when we're tired or irritated those things turn into something bigger than they should.

but at the end of the day we still tell each other sincerely "you're my best friend." and "i love you."  and we really mean it.

there is no other person in this world i would rather tackle life challenges with than mr. lincoln.  besides, he's like soooo fun to hang out with and really just one of the funniest guys ever.

and if you tickle him or give him wet willies his voice gets all high and he sounds EXACTLY like the ginger bread man on shrek.  and that will make you laugh so hard that you won't be able to breathe.

AND he'll say funny things to you in his sleep, which is currently doing right this very moment.  major bonus.

so yeah... i never understood that whole "your first year of marriage is super hard" thing.  maybe someone mixed that up with dating, because i'm quite sure dating is about three gazillion-billion-trillion times harder than being married.

so maybe don't be so sure when you get that advice for someone. 

i'm quite determined to spread the word that marriage is the best thing (ever) to happen to me.

happy are we.


Anonymous said...

I LOVE your blog, and I completely agree with this :)

Robby Spratt said...

This is a great blog post Jalene! I'm really glad that your first year has been so great. I hope that someday I can share your first year enthusiasm about marriage.

Heather said...

I completely agree with this - sure there are some ups and downs, and things get blown out of proportion - that happens to everyone, though, when you're stressed. I think people should keep their negative words of wisdom to themselves sometimes - especially when it comes to marriage and children!

Gretchen said...

I completely agree! I don't think the first year of marriage was any harder than dating. In fact, I thought it was easier because there's that added stability of knowing that you're going to be together and having to work out any differences you have.

miss lex: said...

thank you! this makes me all the more excited to be married! :)

7upkels said...

SO cute jalene. i am happy i have something very happy to look forward to :)

Emily Dawn said...

A girl at my branch that is about to get married was JUST asking me about this-

I couldn't agree with you more! I have never understood what the big deal was.. I too think marriage is such a great and happy thing- thanks for sharing your happiness!

katrina said...


if the first year is the hardest life is going to be a breeze! being married is truly amazzzzzing!

Whitney said...

I love this Jalene. I agree so much. The things people say about marriage sometimes really bother me and I'm glad you're speaking out.

kelli christine case said...

i dig it.
can't wait.
so true.

ashley said...

well i am one of those that think the first year is extremely difficult and i don't think there's anything wrong with being open and honest about that. everyone has different experiences and trials and shouldn't be called negative when stating their personal opinion.

Jenni Austria Germany said...

ummm. i love this.

meme-and-he said...

COULD NOT agree with you more :) Such a lovely post. and I would love to hear that ginger bread man of yours, I laughed just thinking about it!

kelly said...

i felt the same way! then we quickly had three children, three moves and three job changes. haha!
but it's true- stress doesn't necessarily equal unhappiness. but you're probably easier to get along with than I:)

Lauren Elizabeth Stanford said...

The first year of marriage is THE BEST! It's when you start putting kids in there that it gets more difficult... lol yet, by the time we were married one year I was 8 months pregnant with our first baby. ENJOY your time together, it's so much fun! It's less responsibility, you can be spontaneous, you don't have as many financial obligations, you still have a bangin' pre pregnancy body, etc. ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY!! IT"S SOOOO FREAKING AWESOME! P.s. your blog is so cute. I love it. :)